Grr, I was thinking about you today. I was remembering what my wonderful therapist had talked to me about concerning my son. She said that no matter what the age of the child, there are certain things that will help them through it.
She told me that consistency was the most important thing. Keep their life as normal as possible. Be as honest as you can in an age appropriate way. If you and your h are separating, tell him that. Dont confuse him by having your h come and go. He will accept and adjust better if he knows what the real deal is. It's uncertainty and false hope that affects them negatively.
Well, that's what I remember. I hope it helps in some way.
