I told her that this is the last time I will ever say this, but that I love her and am willing to be patient and see how we can work this out together.
So long as she knows she still has you, emotionally, pining for her, you've given her no chance to miss you, and no chance to be re-attracted to you.
I think your wife is confusing "passion" with "infatuation" and "lust."
It's time for you to stop worrying about what will make her angry, and start worrying about WHAT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO, for you and for your daughter. Once your wife suspects that she has TRULY begun to lose you, she MAY (no guarantees) make a move back toward you. But as long as she knows you're there waiting for her, like a puppy dog waiting for her to come back, she's losing what's left of her attraction for you I'm afraid.
