Living in different house MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE in the world, in my situation. While I was DB'ing for 4 months with him in the house, it took a toll on me. Now that he is out of the house(only for 4 days) he calls, comes over and acts like he is intrested in the relationship at least on some level. While we have no children, I still have his dogs.
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
VS2D - that's interesting - so you are saying when your H left the house, it seemed to make him more interested in working on the R? Sounds like out of sight, out of mind vs. absence makes the heart grow fonder.
DG - Hang in there! Sounds like you're on this same crazy roller coaster a majority of us here are on. Just know there are several people thinking about and praying for you.
It's very tough and confusing DG...The GAL is mainly for you though. You need this in your life. It is healthy. The side benifit is that he is seeing you have fun. Even if he isn't living with you, I promise you, he will know. My wife doesn't live with me but she knows.
I am so appreciative for all the support and advice I have gotten from this board. It is very much appreciated. H called me a little bit ago and asked me to dinner on Thursday.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
I've already made myself a promise to not discuss our R at all. He told me on the phone today that he is trying to get to know me again, and he doesn't want to rush things. I need to quit worrying about the end result and just worry about now. And yes, I need to keep working on me.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤