Piecing is almost harder than before #2...

[Jack_Three_Beans]

It's like communication Harrier. It's going to take some time to find a pattern you both understand in each other and then determine if you are going to be able to talk the way that she listens to.

Same thing with sex.

And since it is ALL about communication anyway.

You'd rather have a willing partner right...or better yet an enthusiastic one. I know I do.

More than likely:
You want sex more often than she does.
She wants sex less often than you do.

Down the road, I'd suggest you bring up "The Sex Starved Marriage." Which...while the book is awesome, it is or can be very off putting to the spouse who wants sex less. Hell I prepped my wife before I introduced it. Editorial aside.

Last night? Good for you? Feelng like she rushed it?

Probally not.

Do you decline? Or are you like a puppy when the fridge opens?
"Maybe! Maybe! Maybe, he'll give me the steak!!!"

We (seems like), you and I are similar. More is better.
But I toned it down, Quality over Quantity.
Hell for Quantity I got hands.

I told my wife, "I'd rather you feel comfortable, than feel pressured. And any feeling of obligation, that's a lose lose for me." It's lose because if she doesn't enjoy it, I don't enjoy it, and feel selfish. It's lose because anything that feels like a chore IS a chore and can become resentment.

Now?

When I'm in the mood. Instead of:
"Lets have sex tonight."
it's:

"I'd really like to go to bed early with you one night this week."

She usually agrees, but I attach no hard expectation on it. If she agrees, and a week passes, yeah I get a bit bothered, but I can only blame myself if I get upset...and it's passive agressive if I'm mad without telling her why.

AND it usually is that night or the next night.

I know she isn't ready to go at the drop of a hat. My wife's mental state has to be in the right place. If I want sex, it's in my best interest to help her get there, or at least understand why she isn't there.

Is it normal at this stage?

You're finding you feet, so is she. And this IS a compromise.
You want more, but should settle for less.
She wants less, but should give more.

So yeah.