MC/IC cost is not an issue, we get it for free through the military. Finding the right one can be a bit tougher though. I have not breached the subject of MC with W since she got back. I am hoping that she decides she wants to do it on her own, or maybe it will come up in her IC, but I am not going to push the issue. If anything I will let her know that I will be a fully willing participant if she decides she wants to go.
Funny how you mention focusing on the positive interactions...we went to a birthday party at a friends' house yesterday after my "reach out". I totally overlooked it at the time, but W said something to me and reached up and scratched at my arm while she was saying it. Not much different than what I did, IMO.
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.
