Great post PEI, and it is excellent advice for what we need to do as an LBS.
I do understand that the OM is a symptom, and I do take responsibility for my part in getting us to this point. I know I still have a lot of work to do on my end to become the person I want to be.
That said, I still stand by my comments above. Compassion is needed in these situations, however, that does not mean we have to agree with the actions of the WAS. Like I said, I understand that she would not have walked away from a healthy R, but it is also not an excuse to have an A. I think there is a line there between understanding and compassion and making excuses for what the WAS is doing. An A is never an appropriate, healthy or positive response to the problems in a M. We all know here that there is another choice. Even if the choice becomes leaving the M, there are better ways to handle the situation.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
