DG, keep working on the GAL. I think it takes a little time to build some momentum, at least that was my experience. I didn't think my W even noticed (not that I was only trying to make her notice - I was doing it for myself - I will continue doing all this stuff, too, regardless of how this turns out in the end). Then one day, she starts acting very curious, and has been for the last couple of weeks.
So - give it some time. I really think with your pulling back and working on GAL, your H is going to begin to take notice. In other words, IMHO I think you're on the right track.
