Sitting at home with myself, part 2

[Redo]

Navy: Just from experience. In '09 when wife left for 6 months and came back, i had no idea how to bring 'normalcy' into our lives. There were lots and lots of awkward moments like the one you described. Over time i just got more and more stressed about how and where our relationship was heading. Wife felt the same apparently but we never brought things up. Eventually she formed all this crazy stuff in her head that things are not gonna work out and by 2010 she finally filed for D.

If there's one thing i would have done differently in 2009 after she came back: I would done lot of the "act as if" attitude from DB. It would have changed lot of stuff for us. Try 'acting as if', like happy, jovial, make life fun for you guys. Don't allow awkward moments of silence, quiet times spent seperately, apologizing and bringing back wounds. Dont do any of those. Move on jovially, act like everything is great. I think then you will start believing in positiveness in your relationship. I am sure this will catch on with your wife and she will see how 'fun' it is hanging out with you and might reciprocate in manner. Then build on that positive momentum. Please do not wait on some miracle that's gonna happen and all of a sudden these awkward moments will come to an end. Believe me i did this. Things just got worse for me and i am where i am right now.