I know how all consuming this is. Everyone here does. You said it yourself:
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I feel like I'm going at a million miles an hour here.
Can you really think when you're like this? I couldn't. At first I would have to wear myself out physically just to slow it down for a few seconds!
Have you talked with a lawyer?
When I say do something for you, I do not mean going out to party or date. I mean something that will benefit you and your kids. That could be as simple as a walk to clear your head. Ok, you won't clear it much or for long right now. It's always one foot in front of the other.
Don't stop talking to your kids. Don't blame her when you do. That they take what you say back to her and possibly twist it around (or she does that herself), is really common.
If she calls you on it, you will need to work towards telling her that your kids ask you questions and as their Dad, you are going to answer them in an honest (keep in mind all truths do not need to be spoken) age appropriate way. It will be harder than anything to keep your emotions in check right now. Do it anyway.
