I am sorry that your D has chosen this path of behavior.
I would definately let your H know what is going on with your D as well as seeking whatever help you need to get her, however, I would NOT give him that letter.
Tell him only the facts. That she is doing this.
The letter, was full of blame and manipulation.
I am not trying to 2x4 you Angel, but that letter, is only going to make a bad situation, worse.
If he wants to know the whys...he can ask her and she can tell him what she wants.
If he were to choose to stay, because of this, it is simply out of guilt and you will end up repeating much of this.
As far as your D, educate yourself on cutting. The whys, and all of that. Do your best to not leave her alone and keep talking to her.
Show her that you are ok. That life changes and we have to learn to adapt, find the positives, and grow. What other people choose to do with their lives, doesn't have to ruin ours. Make sure that she knows it isn't ok to do this. That she has to find a different way to release her pain.
Angel, these are the things we will face. And sometimes, even though it isn't how we envisioned it, we face them alone. Help your D. Put your focus there. Let your H choose for himeself what he is going to do.
Post and get your feelings out here.
(((hugs)))
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
