I would agree strongly with your post. We grow and change into people we never expected to become. I have a van, and my own power tools [as well as a lot of shoes] I have lots of new friends [as well as fabulous old ones], and a new life opening up. I am starting up two new businesses in partnership with different people.
Would I have done all of this if my xh hadn't left me? probably not. Until recently I would have given it all up to have my 'old' life back. Not now. No newguy in my case, but that is OK too.
I still read and post because I remain interested in the phenomenon of MLC and the devastation it causes in people's lives. And also because of a fabulous bunch of very interesting people trying to deal with an impossible situation with courage grace and dignity. We used to define success as restoring your marriage, but now I can see, as the then old timers used to point out, it is about us too, and how we respond. Our chance to grow into the people we are capable of becoming.
