Hi, I remember you! My bomb was late 2005, but my xh never really wanted to reconcile. Still crazy and mean. I think it is harder when they come back and then run again. We are now divorced [took 5 years though], and I have broken all contact. Much easier that way.
I do wonder if most of them never really 'get over it'. Clearly some do, and I would never suggest we should give up easily, but there does seem to come a point at which our lives need to move on. I am happier and more at peace with myself now I have closed the door, but no regrets at having waited so long to do it.
Sadly my xh has alienated his children [my fault apparently!] and that is bad for all of them I think.
