Bolt I had the same confusion, about DBing about Standing for my M. Ultimately it comes down to unconditional love, something we all want. My H. may in the end decide to divorce me. All indications are that is the way he's going to go. I don't want what we had back either, neither of our needs was being met. Nonetheless I wish the best for him. It is my wish that he become the best and authentic person he can be for himself and for our kids. In order for us to build a new relationship, with an existing history, he's going to have to do that anyway, because I am not the same, I am becoming the best and authentic me I can be.
Bolt as I see it , right now you have a choice, and I know so well the pain is raw and blinding for you. Take your time...get angry, cry and grieve.
You can choose to stay stuck here, in pain, anger and unforgiveness. Or, you can choose to continue to DB for YOU.
You have my prayers this morning, my empathy, sympathy and shoulder to lean on should you want it.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
