I always read along to see how you are doing but I am not sure if I have ever posted to you.
I find your H's use of the word BETRAYED very interesting. It is an emotionally laden word. Any one who feels betrayed feels very damaged, hurt and bereft at a deep emotional level. Did he feel betrayed because he felt that in your depressed state you could not meet the needs he thought you should as a wife, mother and business partner? Is this something he has not forgiven you for? He needs to address that feeling and let go. Did he go into anymore details about this? Does he see that you felt BETRAYED but have forgiven him? Is he using the word BETRAYED as a way of not facing his guilt or did he geniuinely feel BETRAYED no matter how misguided that feeling might appear?
You don't have to respond as I know that it is extremely painful for you. These are just things which occured to me as I read your post.