He didn't even have to lick a stamp as he has everything set up on line.
It was my choice to pay the bills on my own house. It was easier to have H pay them this way instead of me writing him a check from my own account to cover them.
I do believe as Snodderly stated that it has bothered him that I could do it without him. It proved two things. It was a 180 for me, and that I could manage it myself.
The interesting thing about all of it is that what my monthly bills come to will be about the amount he'll owe me every month when he has to start paying what the C/S should be when the D is final.
Maybe the consequences of all of this are starting to sink in.
SA, It took me a very long time to understand the "method to his madness" routine. Once you understand that it's all about them and how they want things to be, you then can side step the mess and do what you need to do to live your life w/o being caught up in their drama.
Don't say another word to him about the names on the bills. Try to change as many as you can. He's like a kid who doesn't want to let go of his toys. The less you say to him about them, the better...it's control and that's what he thrives on right now.
Enjoy your day and do something special for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I don't believe I'll every understand the method to their madness. It's JMHO, but the more independent you are, the more independent you are! Yes, avoid the drama by all means.
Don't say another word to him about the names on the bills. Try to change as many as you can.
Snodderly, that is my plan exactly.
Punkin, I was independent before I met H, and am enjoying that re-found part of me now. There's something to be said for being able to make your own decisions without worrying about what someone else might have to say about it.
SA, I couldn't have said it better about the independence and making decisions w/o worrying about someone else.
Enjoy your day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Seek, just stopping by to say you are doing wonderfully. Do whatever works best for you. Just be sure to make your decisions based on that so that you dont cut your nose to spite your face, ya know?
My guess is that it's a combination of a few things with your h. A ilttle guilt, not liking the lack of control and some MLC thrown in for good measure. LOL!
You just keep being the wonderful SA are you! Him, who cares?
Sorry I haven't stopped by in awhile. As you know my situation has been a rollercoaster the last couple weeks. Thank you for your insights on my thread.
I think the ladies have given you good advice. You have been smart to keep documentation of everything. I was amazed at how difficult the cable company, the phone company, and our long-term care insurance company made it to transfer the name. I have to admit that I wasn't always cordial with them. I feel sorry for those poor customer service reps. If you're getting nowhere, just politely ask to speak with their supervisor. It makes more sense to tell your story (if you have to) to a decision-maker.
Just me checking in to see how things are going with you.
And GAG is right. Skip the minnow that answers the phone and go straight for the big mouth bass. It keeps from having to repeat your story over and over.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
