Sorry you find yourself here. But it is a great place to learn and grow. I'm sure Cadet will be by shortly. But just based on your post, my own opinion is that you are worrying too much about doing thing FOR your H. If changes need to be made within you, and you agree, then change for YOURSELF. Don't expect validation from H. If the change is something you truly believe is what's best for yourself, then that is what matters. MLCers can sniff out "fake" change like nobody's business. That's why changing for our spouse is NEVER the answer. Focus on yourself. Improve yourself FOR yourself. That's all you can do. You have no control over your H's thoughts or actions. This is not easy, and you may be in for a very long haul. Keep the focus on you and your kids. That way no matter what happens, you'll end up a better person in the end.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
