I'm here....but I'm pretty new to the boards so I had to get caught up on your sitch. It sounds like your W has been going through a lot lately, and I think you are handling it quite well. As a woman and a M I can't imagine how your w must be feeling now with everything so out of control. I'd be upset if that is what became of my life also.
I think your strategy is good-you put the offer out there and now you are just laying low and waiting for her response and not being pushy. Very, very good move on your part. You seem like a really nice guy who is an amazing Dad. Your kids are very lucky.
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