6. Do not ask for help from family members. I don't have too many family members. Plus I didn't want family to know. Sister figured it out and that was hard because she is still angry with him and wanted me to leave him.
7. Do not ask for reassurances. This is something I actually did do. H never wanted to leave and said he wanted our M. An early agreement was that he should reassure me.
8. Do not buy gifts. Tough one. H's LL is buying him little gifts. Since part of my 180 was to turn and pay more attention to him, I did buy him a couple of little things. Nothing big. It was more like getting him the beer he likes. This was only because he really needed to know I wanted him. I came across as selfish to him, he felt I never thought of him.
9. Do not schedule dates together. He never left. I didn't schedule outings tho. I let him do it.
10. Do not spy on spouse. I once got out of work early and drove to his office instead of home. Then I was unsure if I should have done that. Long story short, he thought I was spying on him, accused me of it and said it built up a wall. I didn't feed into it. Told him that was not my intention and left it at that. Normally I would have driven my point home. Now that we are solidly in Piecing, I'm going to ask him about that day. I'll let you know what he says.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
