Thank you for your insight. I thought guilt was a possibility too. I was curious as to why now? He hasn't given two hoots about it for the last 15 months.
I came to the conclusion that since we hadn't really talked about much of anything for 15 months, (there was some back and forth stuff for the first 3 months after he left) those truth darts that I threw his way may have struck a nerve? IDK.
The bills are still in his name. The way we have it figured out is that he deposits child support into our joint account. He takes what the bills come to out of C/S. He sends me records of them being paid and the joint account deductions reflect that. I have saved every email.
What I also find curious is that he will not help me get the bills changed over into my name. I have asked many times. There is one that I could probably change over w/o his help. There are 3 others that will be a pain without his help.
He told me that he will continue to pay them until 'I' get them changed over into my name. He left 3 dots after that statement?
I am on Spring Break in a week. I plan to do what I can to switch as much as I can into my name. I will also go to H's credit union where the joint account is and see what I can do about getting C/S transferred to my personal account at a different credit union. H doesn't want to help me set that up either as that means he will no longer be able to keep track of how I'm spending the money. It really does all go for bills and kids, but his need to keep track of me in this way freaks me out. I believe he really is all about control.
If he wants to help continue paying them he can just add it to the C/S. If not, my L assures me it will all come out in the wash when the D is final.
It was his choice to leave, but he really tries to keep track of what we're all doing through the kid's FBs and texting them with questions. He sends me emails asking things of me that he could definitely find out for himself without a problem. I not sure why he is doing all of this now when for many months he could have cared less. I was thinking about sending him a few articles about detachment. He needs to read them now. LOL
Thank you all again for your input. It really helps clarify things helping me to stay out of the spin zone.
