Typical behavior after ending affair?

[Telemark]

"It's like handing out ballon animals at a funeral."

J_T_B, thanks for this macabre but funny comment. I needed a laugh this morning.

Riley, I'm new here and it's been only 4 weeks since my D-Day, but from what I've seen of my W's behavior regarding her EA - which she swears is over yet she still maintains contact - her emotions are all over the grid and unpredictable. I think most of us - "us" being the betrayed spouses - have a pretty firm grasp on what we want, which is to create a better and stronger marriage from the ashes of the old one.

They - the wandering spouses - don't have a clue in their clue box. Do they stay? Do they go? Do they love the OP? Do they love their spouse? Divorce? Separation? Reconciliation?

Like you, I've backed off and started the actions for ME that have been recommended often in these forums: 180s, GAL, "going dark" when I need to. The only answer I've received from the W regarding anything is "I don't know." But it keeps the home atmosphere at a peaceful level.

Stay your course and let your H run his course of emotions. Best to you. And I apologize for my long windedness...2nd cup of coffee is kicking in.

Mark