I am going to misquote the hell out of it but there is something in the book about "I am not an expert on what works, but I know what doesn't work"
That's really what it comes down to. In then end, some M will be saved, some won't. We don't have a magic bullet for what works, we are simply not trying to dig our own graves by doing what doesn't work.
Denver, what your doing is working. I agree that very cautious optimism is warranted. But that is what I see. Just remember what you learned and you'll be fine.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.