Well, I specifically told my friends tonight who are also friends on FB that under no circumstances are they to tell me anything about what he posts or who he is talking to. Even if I beg them, they need to tell me NO. We are not friends on FB, but he "pokes" me all the time and I am going to ignore them.
I made a list of things that I want to change as well as the specific steps that I am going to take to change them. I'm going to have to focus on one at a time, because I want to make sure I do this right. For me.
Tonight my S and I stopped at the pet store and they had the most adorable female Basset Hound puppy. They are my absolute favorite breed of dog and it took all my power to walk away and not bring her home with me. Part of the reason is my H, I know he doesn't want a dog and while we are separated, D isn't being considered right now and I can't make a decision like that without talking with him. So although tempting, I resisted. Oh how I keep thinking about her though!
Here is my 180 list so far:
STOP BEING SO INSECURE! -stop checking phone records -when I get the urge I will tell myself "You are worth more than this" -Practice positive self talk -stop looking at his FB -don't ask friends/family what he has posted -practice positive self talk.
-HAVE A MORE POSITIVE ATTITUDE -when I have a negative thought, I will stop myself by saying "How is this helping me?" -when I start feeling anxious or worried, I will pray to God for guidance -start going to church -No chasing, pursuing, or I love you -remind myself that he knows all of these things - continue with counseling for myself - find things to do that I enjoy that make me feel good about myself
I have also started a list on the positive things about me. That one is going to take more time.
I am proud of you DG!! This is really good!!! First thing on your list of positive things. You are truly a WONDERFUL person!!!
