I don't know why H does what he does. I can't be sure of course, but he did not start paying the utilities until I told him I was living paycheck to paycheck.
I do have all the records as to what I've paid at my house.
It is a waste of time to try to figure the MLCer out. I know this. I'm working really hard at not trying to give H head space. I do better some days then others.
My D12 has decided to go with her Dad and ow on vacation. As much as I absolutely hate the idea I've decided to let go and let God. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason...