Another first! Just as I was finishing the last post, I received a phone call from XH to chat about the memorial service. We chatted for a few minutes and then he invited me to come over to his house (I've never been inside before) to visit with his sister since she is a bit wound up. He said that he is spent and will probably be upstairs and won't come down........said he'd told BMF that he wanted to be alone this evening........but said I am welcome to come over. I accepted.........so I am going to change my clothes and go visit with X-SIL at XH's house.