Thanks Punkin and Peace for sharing your wisdom with me.
I feel like him saying we're done is so final. I just don't know where to go from here. I was hoping he'd say he needs to work on himself for longer, I don't even mind being separated at this point, it is actually better for me, but I hate that it's hurting the kids.
What should I do? Should I suggest, for example, that we stay separated for 6 months?, 12 months?, and see what happens? A big problem with that is that the kids and I would be relying on him to financially support us during that time, and H's friend would have to let him keep living there because there's no way we can afford 2 homes. He's never even asked his friend how long he can stay or if he wants any payment for living there. I do not want to proceed with D now, because I see how messed up in the head he is and I still have a little hope that IC will help him come around. I just don't know how to make that happen. We are supposed to talk when I get home from work tonight, which is in about a half an hour, so super fast advice would be great!
Me- 35 H- 36 M- 7 T- 9 D3, D5 Bomb 1/21/11 EA/PA began 12/10? Discovered A 3/2/11 S- 3/3/11 OW gone- 4/27/11 H says he wants to reconcile, but lacking action
