Wednesday ... Went out to dinner with W's family for SS's birthday. His party was last Saturday, but his actual birthday was on Wed. We had a lot of fun. Nothing really of note on our R though.
Thursday...
W had a gig with her music company. It was a recording session at a studio. W had told me about a week ago that OM might be there. She didn't know bc she hadn't talked to him. The way that it works with this company is that she receives gig information via email. The owner sends the info out to all of the musicians who are in the company. W is the main female vocalist, so it is rare that she won't accept and be on a particular gig. But with some of the other musicians, that is not the case. There are a number of guitar players for example... if the company's number 1 guitar player doesn't want to do a particular gig, then the number 2 player can take it. It is the same with the horn players, which OM is a part of. And he is not a number 1 horn player. So he gets the scraps, basically. It is also rare that a gig actually has horn players at all. The bottom line is, W can tell me if a gig has horn players on it, but she can't tell me if OM is going to be on the show for sure unless she communicates with OM.
When we were talking about how W would let me know if and when OM is on a gig with her in the future, W told me that she'd rather not have to communicate with OM to find out if he was on a particular gig and would rather just tell me if the gig has horn players and then let me know when she gets to the venue if OM is there. I told her that I am fine with that, and I don't want her communicating with OM either.
So last night's gig did have horn players. W and I didn't know if OM would be present. When W arrived, she saw that he was indeed there. There were probably 10 or 11 musicians involved with this.
She texted me to let me know. She also told me that he was staying away from her and that he was clearly upset and trying to avoid her.
W texting me that she was feeling terrible bc it was clear that OM was upset and depressed. I responded by telling her that I was sorry that she was feeling terrible. We exchanged a few more text messages.
A little while later, W texted me that OM had already finished his part and had left.
I was watching SS and he eventually fell asleep on the couch. W called me when she was done and on her way to pick SS up. She arrived and we spoke for a little while. She and SS left.
W texted me when she got to the place where she is staying to thank me for watching SS. She said to me, "Thanks for everything tonight. If you're feeling at all untrusting of me, you can ask [name] or [name] how late we worked tonight. There is probably a part of you that is wondering."
I responded, "I trust you baby. But i do appreciate that you are being sensitive to my feeling with this. I think that this will really help us get through this."
W responded with a smiley face. -----------
Today (Friday)....
W met me for coffee this morning. As we were talking, I asked her, "so OM was upset last night, huh?"
W, "Yeah, he seemed angry and hurt. I hate hurting anyone. I was careless. I shouldn't have dated anyone during our S... I should have just been by myself."
Me, "Did you talk to him at all?"
W, "A little. But when I am working he is not, and when he is doing his stuff I am just waiting around. And he was really trying not to be around me."
W and I are going out tonight. SS is spending the night with a friend.
That is where we are!
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
