Journaling: I spoke with our daughter for a little while last night. She and W met for dinner last night. W knows the house will be sold. During the conversation D brought up some of the changes she will have to make in her life when the house sells. W excused herself to the bathroom, returned later and told our D she was sorry this sitch was causing her problems. This sitch, not her decision, or her part in the problems leading to her decision.

W has very rarely, meaning I cannot recall a single instance apologized without placing a qualifier in the apology.
Sincerely apologizing is a learned skill. IMO this is another sign of dysfunction in her childhood.

Our D said W excused herself to the bathroom several times and avoided topics during dinner when they began to cause negative emotions.

Our DIL wants several items she left at our house after Christmas. DIL and W talk twice a week. DIL and W are communicating through our D to me to ask if I will ship them, or give W access to them. This is so childishly tiresome.

I told our D to just get the items to me and I’d get them shipped. I don’t want to play post office over the contents of two dresser drawers. I don’t think of this a being a doormat. I am gun decking the problem to kill the drama. Doing so takes away W ability to create drama over something trivial.

This morning I woke with an odd feeling of peace. The behavior modifications are beginning to take hold. I have participated in behavior modification before and I have been waiting to this realization to occur. I need to set a few more short term goals for myself.

When praying at the beginning of this journey I was requesting a rapid resolution. Now I find myself thanking my deity for another opportunity to improve myself, helping me maintain bearing, requesting strength to carry on, safety and healing for W.

I am looking for another reading suggestion specific to LC/MLC. Suggestions???
I am considering a book about walking on eggshells. SWOE. Opinions? It deals more with people suffering from BPD which seems to apply more to my MIL than W.

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill