You ask, "Is there hope after you are done?" I believe that is up to you. As I had it explained to me, if you turn and walk down the hall, but do not slam the door behind you, leaving it open just a bit, there is always the chance your H will open the door and follow you at some point. IF that is what you want. Only YOU can decide when it is time to shut that door for good and all.
He may open the door and you may find you no longer care. He may never open the door at all.
It's not that you've never gotten him, it's that he doesn't get himself at the moment, and he is thrashing about looking for someone who can explain him to him. That is usually not us, the spouses, because we are too close. When you can't give them the answer, they may become angry and make you the focal point of their anger, BECAUSE you are too close to the situation.
Keep reading the DB fundamentals. Try to keep your calm. It's a hard job, but one of you has to do it, and I believe it's always the LBS if anyone does.
And you are right, Meganna, it is Purgatory, or as realistic a facsimilie as I ever want to be in.
Hold tight, keep coming here to rant and let off steam, or to celebrate your small victories. Helping each other is about all we can do at the moment, other than work on ourselves.
