When life hands you lemons add alcohol and stir!

[AliSuddenly]

Well...

I need to understand more about what happened between us and what I did that pushed him out the door and into her arms.

I'm not sure its just that Mish... sure there would have been issues that allowed space for him to act out.. in the context of your then R, but in my experience of A's/WAH.. its also to do solely with that person, something in them just cant help it at the time, or its indicative of some childhood issues or current depression/unhappiness in life, or just a rite of passage.. I dont know, not explaining well, but its certainly not ALL to do with the R you two were in.

Otherwise, if it was JUST the R.. he wouldnt have been flip flopping around back then (do you remember, he never did seem done?).. and he wouldnt be back now. When your done, you're DONE and Gabe never was.