Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 4

[OnMyWay]

Sparks,

I've been following your thread and something here has caught my eye with regards to your W's anger. I don't want to hijack your thread; my post is over here if you are interested:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...979#Post2143979

I'd really like to learn more of your interpretation of your W's anger, how you recognize it, and know to react appropriately to it. In my sitch, my W has just recently begun attacking me/pushing all the right buttons. I believe she left because of a lacking in our relationship, guilt of her one-time PA, and the "support" of all her divorced friends. Now that she's gone, she's changed. I think she may provoke me now to elicit a negative response to justify her choice to leave. I'm not sure she knows she does it. Unfortunately, I've been falling into that trap.

But, as you have shown me the pattern of your W, I'm beginning to see how I may be able recognize this behavior for what it is and act more accordingly. I was hoping you'd have some additional input.

Thanks for sharing your story. I've often wondered about my W's sexual orientation, as women are much more "sharing" then men. Your sitch does raise a couple of flags I previously brushed off without sincere consideration. Please keep posting. I think you are handling yourself very well.