LIS, I'm sorry it has come to this, but looks like H is riding that coaster hard. I don't think all is lost, just hang in there and work on yourself, work to get off that coaster so you can detach from H's drama. I'm sorry I haven't been able to follow your sitch, you have been supportive of mine, and I'd like to be there for you too. I suggest you check out the MLC forum, I have been spending more time time there and the vest really know what to say. Maybe your H is in MLC, as he seems so confused. Take care of yourself!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
Glad you checked in. It hasn't been the same without you. Sorry to hear about your stich. Tough times but you know the old saying, God doesn't give us any more than we can handle. I'm not a very religious person, but I truly believe this.
Keep getting yourself stronger. YOU can do it. Your H is stuck and is very confused. This MLC thing stinks BIG time. I'm here for you if you need.
Sending prayers and hugs - ZEN
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Hey Lost, Sweetheart, I don't know why, but it looks like the "marriage gods" have snatched the two of us and thrown us head first into the a pit with no bottom. I would love to offer you some wonderful words of support and wisdom, but, for the first time in six months, ole' FOBD has none to offer. I too am pretty much at my limit. I have spent the past two days trying like h*ll to recover from my wife's visit on Tuesday night. She was so cold and so angry, it was truly frightening. I would just stay clear of him for now. Take care of yourself and go see an A. Start thinking about protecting yourself and your future. That is about all I can offer.
You have been with me since the beginning and I will be here for you. Even if it is just to pick up the pieces when it is all over.
Do you know why?
BECAUSE BITS NEVER WALK ALONE!!!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
