Is this generally true for all of us?

[ninelives]

Great thread, a lot of similarities.

My W has it all.

Depression, father died who was alcholic and emotionally abusive,
resentment towards mother, bad childhood,

I like the analogy of taking her 9 years to find the door when we become human.

I always felt like I needed to be near perfect in the marriage because when I made mistakes, and I did, I certainly heard about them.

My mistake was treating her like a mentally healthy person. I should have been extra aware.

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