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[Queen_of_Swords]

SC you just described me to a T.

Then you know what you need to do.

You need to find a way to find your own inner sense of control over yourself.

I am guessing ( since I have also been accused of being controlling) that the deepest part of you believes the world is an unsafe place, you do not trust it or others in getting your needs met.
Perhaps your needs were not met by people that you should have been able to trust as a baby or small child.

This belief is a lie.

You CAN trust you. Your needs CAN be met. You're no longer a helpless infant or child dependant on others for survival. You're an adult and fully capable.

Affirm to yourself that the world is a safe and nurturing place.

The only person you CAN control without bullying, haranguing, or manipulating is you. Let go DG and control you.

A few suggestions that may help you to reduce your anxiety levels to be able to release external control in this regard are:

Eliminate all stimulants ...coffee, tea, energy drinks etc.
Get enough sleep. Eat when you're hungry.
Deliberately let a little chaos into your life. So the vacumming doesn't get done this week, it'll still be there next week.
Meditate on self control.

I have this pinned on my wall as a reminder to myself. You may like it as well:


You are not the general manager of the universe. Your job is to stay open to possibilites and let go of concepts of how things should work out.