First off I am glad that you and yours are safe and alive.
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Detachment. GAL. 180...I guess this time, I need to mean it...
It is hard not think of these terms as...tricks. When they work and you see results. It almost works against you and long term goals to have see such good results quickly, because; well they are tricks. Tricks that worked.
The problem with tricks, is that eventually people see through them. Smoke and mirrors.
When these terms, are no longer fixes? When these terms are your way of life, because you made them for you and not to win her back. Then they are real and you wife will see the real change.
They look and watch, and I believe they do for a long time. I believe they have a deep rooted fear that most people (you) do not change.
"So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss." - Sun Tzu
That is exactly why those two comments stood out. We use terms like GAL, 180, DB we do something and see a little success then we stop.
You know why we stop?
Because we do it with a desired outcome once we get it there is no need to continue. That by definition is not change it is a trick, a ploy, or whatever you want to call it.
To say I am peaking her interest by GAL is false. If you go GAL then go GAL if you do a 180 then do it because you have acknowledged you need to make a change regardless of the outcome of your R/M.
Anything else and you are fooling yourself.
Bolt, you have 30 days?
Good! Better than Good GREAT
Now take those 30 days to make the necessary changes in your life that have contributed to your downfall.
If you do it for you, then at the end of the 30 days it really does not matter what your W does or does not do.
We don't DB......We change our lives we just like to call it by a name so we use DB.
