Is this generally true for all of us?

[ironMan]

I think there is an element of "Nice Guy" in anybody who would pick a wounded partner. We knew they had issues going in and figured we could fix them.

In the beginning, this was exactly what they wanted and was great.

In the end, WE became just human .... and they started looking for the next ONE who could fix them.

So, they believe they need somebody else to fix them .... and we believe that as well and we try to fix them. And the problems in the relationship are then always said to be problems with that co-dependent WAS.

Well, guess that makes us both broken then eh? The yin, and the yang. We push, they pull.

I've decided to stop pushing.