Is this generally true for all of us?

[InAPickle]

Not to imply anything "good guy" about me,
I came into the M with some baggage myself as well.

But looking back on the months or years before bomb drop,
while W was planning her exit, I honestly expected her to insist on repair.
EA and OM made it that much easier for her to take the other fork in the road.
Those years I would often wonder why she was drifting away and seemed to make no effort.

I have said before how I accept my half of the blame for the failure of our M, but the more I think about it, the less I feel at fault, b/c on bomb day her mind was totally made up. That had to have been in the planning for a long time.

In hindsight, there was no amount of DBing I could have done to dissuade her, but it has helped me get a grip.