Question about last resort

[ironMan]

Hi, Paper. Thanks for telling my story for me. I get tired of repeating it :-)

Wow wow wow .... it never ceases to amaze me how common this is and how similar some of the aspects are.

My W moved to the guest room a few weeks after the bomb. I'm currently waiting for her to move. I think she'll move soon.

You have to learn .... to stop trying to get in her head. You can't read her thoughts .... trying to do so is ONE of the things that got you and I into this thing. She may be mad .... at herself! She may be mad at you. Who knows ... and who cares. She is HER problem now.

I feel the same as you .... when she feels totally horrible (like yesterday) makes me feel validated that she's doing the wrong thing. And, at the same time, I feel bad for her .... and then I get mad that she is doing this to our family and it is selfish.

But, you're on the right path. You need to focus on GAL, and being happy. She will want to be around a happy person ... but will run like crazy from an unhappy one.