Bolt, I am SO incredibly sorry to hear this news. I know how you feel...in a word...gutted.
I have Mort Fertel's book. I can't afford his program as much as I would like to still get it eve at this dire time. His book was one of the first ones I picked up before my H moved out. H wanted no part of it but I liked it. Then the floodgates of resources just opened.
You are a seasoned DB'er in my book. You totally have the chops to stay the new Bolt. I hope your W sees the light before its too late for both of you.
Sending prayers and hugs!
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11