Keeping the Faith

[Sanderika]

(((((Cas)))))

All sounds very positive with H to me.

His comfort and continuous effort towards reconnecting are very meaningful right now. He obviously wants to work at this or he would not be doing so.

I think it's wonderful that he cooks for you after a long day. He is certainly not acting as selfish and withdrawn. His thinking of you speaks volumns about his current mindset.

I venture to say your efforts and stance has outlasted his MLC.

I think he is checking prices for flights for you as well I have a gut instinct telling me he wants to make plans as a family to go to son's for Christmas.

Continue to give him time. He is making great strides. (((Cas))) you have worked so hard and come so far, don't turn back right now.....please!

My H and I have our 1st 2 hour consultation tomorrow (4/1/11 @ 11:00am) for couples counseling. I located a pro-marriage doctor (Ph D) who has been a couples counselor for 30+ years. He is married with children and grandchildren. I will let all know how it goes. I have prepared a notebook to bring with me to each session. I think H is in for a very rude awakening. While I have done tons of work on me, H has done little to none on himself. Boy Oh Boy, this is going to be scary.

I have had three points of contact with H this week, 1 I initiated to let him know of the appointment and 2 initiated by him: 1 to confirm his schedule was open and the 2nd one to tell me news on a piece of property we had been looking into buying as an investment. Interesting?!?! H also told me to transfer more money out of the company tomorrow, so I will!!!

We are supposed to get a huge spring snowstorm tomorrow, I am hoping that it doesn't get so bad this meeting is canceled.

I have had a very somber week as I prepare for tomorrow. I have hope but am doubtful. H has certainly kept his distance for the most part from me for over a month now. OW is still here.

I hope my investment in counseling is worth the time and money. I still hold fast to what I want. I have been thinking about things to say. Of course we all know it won't go as rehearsed!!

(((Cas))) take care my friend, I think you two are doing wonderfully and it will all work out. The time is right.

Sanderika