Denver. I have read your whole situation. Every word.

It's not about tearing apart a situation (sorry if you see it that way). It's about giving people advice. I don't want to see Denver make a mistake in not dealing with something, but sometimes you just have to let them.

AND it's not about being married or right. Right or wrong doesn't work here. My post was NEVER, NEVER about being right, but about being HONEST with your spouse and yourself. We didn't get here because our M had great communication and everyone was open and honest about their feelings.

Will you be married at ALL COSTS...just to stay married? The boards here are littered with tales of LBS who took their wives back too soon or before they had dealt with issues simply because they wanted to be married again. They thought the proof was in their pudding as well. Sadly, many of these stores did not turn out well.

Strut now Denver. But don't get to arrogant because you are in for one heck for a ride.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
--Jean Jacques Rousseau.