One thing my DB coach told me early on is that I am competing with this idealized lifestyle my WAW has in mind. In DR, it suggests doing some things out of character for the way you are acting now. Think back to when your H first fell in love with you. What worked then? What worked when things were going well?
I struggled myself early on with finding the things I had always wanted to try, but didn't, that I would keep on doing regardless.
