You do what you need to do, to get through this, Wii. I'm glad you're going to hang out with your brother. You can reminisce (sp?) about your wonderful dad. I bet there are many stories you can tell each other.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I went to the Chiropractor today. The receptionist was asking how I could be there during the day, was I on holidays. I told her that I lost my father on Friday and am on bereavement leave for the week. Well, she'd lost her mother in February so we had a nice half hour chat about the experience of loss together. I'm about to head out to pick up D13 and take her to the Physiotherapist and afterwords head over to Mom's to go through pictures of Dad for the slide show and whatever else. One of the three charities Mom has specified for donations is the oncology dept at the hospital. Did I mention the oncologist called Mom the day of Dad's death? After giving his condolences he said that he had a hard job but sometimes when he works with patients like Dad and families like ours all the love he sees re-energizes him and keeps him going. That's nice to hear. Anyway, gotta run.
Sounds like you're doing the best you can under the circumstances. Hope all goes well with the service and you can enjoy the good memories. Take time for yourself and allow yourself to grieve. It is a necessary process. Still hits me at times when I least expect it.
(((((wii))))) Thinking of all of you. Your Dad is still with you making sure that you are all ok. Let him be there. When you feel stronger let him know that it is ok to go.
Big hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Yesterday was a wonderful day and I know Dad is up there beaming. So many people came out to say goodbye, we packed the place and didn't even place and obituary, it was just word of mouth. Afterwords, Mom said she felt "exhilarated", which was nice to hear. For dinner, the family went out to dinner at Boston Pizza, Dad's favourite restaurant and we left his urn at home sitting in "his" chair. Mom's sister is staying with her this week, so that will help. Today they plan to go with my sister to a Craft Show downtown, so as Dad is now finding, there are some benefits to dying! Well, today is the opening ballgame in Toronto and I've dubbed today on my FB page as W.T.G.W.B.N: Watch The Game With Bob Night. I know he'll be up there watching his beloved Jays so anyone who wishes to join him (from down here, don't do anything drastic!) is welcome to join. So Dbers, if you watch a ballgame today, think of Bob. Thanks. Btw, the Jays sent flowers to his funeral yesterday recognizing their lifelong fan. Today is a massage and ...wait for it....rushing kids to appointments and activities. Life is back to normal...for the moment!
Wow - I'm impressed - flowers from the Jays. That is uber cool! Go Jays. Go Bob. Are you my FB friend? You know the first name. Last name is Barbie's boyfriend followed by yeres. Add me if you haven't already.
Glad to hear you are doing so well. My baby moved out today. Sad but happy day for me. Really mixed feelings but this is necessary for me to move on.
