my 9 year old s, has been really feeling the separation as of late my h is usually with us until bedtime, and as soon as he leaves, the nightmare begins he texts my h, gets very quiet, or talks to himself
we are seeking a good therapist
his teacher says he is falling way behind, will not participate with the others, complains of stomach pain, etc.............
my brother in law (who my h has the utmost respect for) called both of us last night he said there is no way we should be thinking of divorce while our s is clearly in so much troube after speaking to him, my h called me crying
he told me that he wants us to move in with him, but this in no way means he wants to work on our marriage
we have tried before and it didn't work
however, he agrees that we need to be under one roof right now
i am very torn,,,,,,,,,,i will do whatever it takes to give my s some peace, but my h was so angry about this
he said he hates to take this giant step backward, but will do anything for our s
he cursed the universe and asked why his s had to be so frail to which i set a boundary right away i told him if that was his attitude, i could not have my child with him and that we would come up with another solution to help him i was calm, but firm he told me that would be the first and last time he would vent that way
part of me thinks this could be a step toward reconcilliation the other thinks it might be a disaster, i need a moment to really think this thru
to be clear, he said it would be a very temporary thing that we would get counciling for all of us on how to deal with this
goodnight or goodmorning, depending on where you are
