Bolt, I have been with you since your first post. I too honestly believed you were one of the most skilled DBers and thought you were going to be the next success story after Denver. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I am not anyone you should be listening to right now. I can barely breathe without my soul pulsating with anger. What your wife did was awful and I would just avoid her right now. I would go as dark as you can while you process your anger. Last night as my ex-wife dropped the bomb on me I felt the anger coming so I asked her to leave. I am very glad I did that. Otherwise, I would have said something I could never take back.
Take a break from your w and your sitch for a few days. Take care of yourself and your kids and let her swing in the breeze for a spell. She deserves no attention right now.
I wish I had the words to help you with this, but I can't even get out of my own way right now...
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...