I am sorry you are going through all this. Like you, I have a very mean and nasty mid-lifer. It is going on 5 years and he is still extremely angry. Just last week me and my brothers ran into ex at a restaurant and ex was beyond angry. He said some very nasty things to me. They have not dealt with all their issues. Behind all the anger is fear and pain.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11