DueinMay: Wow I am really impressed on how committed you are for your marriage. Hope your husband realizes what he is doing, especially that he's becoming a dad.
One of your goals you mentioned was 'Help H find himself again'. While that is very nice of you, i wonder if that would actually backfire. Because WAW's are caught up in the resentment loop and everything you do for them, they turn it around and justify it more as a reason to run away.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...