The year of not my problem

[AJM]

Update:
Met with the pastor. Very nice of him to do that. He pretty much reinforced the same things I was thinking and the same things my father has been telling me. Love my daughter, but give her her space. One of the things that came up is that she is struggling for her adulthood. Part of that is trying on her mother's persona. I've noticed that in the past few months as have several other friends. Seems natural for a child to do that.
His bottom line of advice? Let my daughter know I love her but don't pressure her at this point. I suspect he is right. We both agree she needs therapy as well. The trick now is how to get that for her without causing damage to her long term.
Kids should come with a handbook

Speaking of my father being right. Pastor felt that stbx was and is trying to hurt me out of revenge for what she thinks I did. Oddly, I didn't do it, but that's not important apparently
Texted her last night about closing out a bill. She responded she's busy but have I signed the papers for the realty contract. No.
Got a call from the realtor this morning asking about it. Turns out stbx lowered the price and wants it to be a six month contract. Not sure why, but she seems hell bent on making me sell the house. It's very likely we would both lose money if we sold, vs. her walking away with money in her pocket if she accepts my offer. From my perspective she has something else in mind because that's not a rational response to the offer. We could be in for six more weeks of winter I guess.
Pastor was joking and said I should hope she marries the boyfriend so that she'll get off my back. That is funny but he is half serious as well. I find myself almost hoping my wife will marry this guy and then feel guilty for what he'll get out of it and then ok with it since he deserves what he gets on this one for his part in all of this. Oh the wild emotions. LOL. Honestly, I don't care, but it is kind of funny to think along those lines.....

Waiting on the lawyers to do their thing.

AJ