Tonight my W informed me that she no longer sees any reason for us to continue
Actually she said that the minute she moved out. The only difference now is that after you put in all your hard work you expected a different result. Why is that? See DB has no time table for some it is 3 months for others it is 2yrs everyone comes around at a different pace. Just breathe!
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I tried to argue but was meant with anger and venom.
Everytime. Last night you got blind sided so you reacted with emotions. Today you have to regroup and decide where to go from here. YOU have to decide, not your W.
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All you need to know is this, six months of giving her space, playing nice and showing her support apparently did nothing to fix inside her head the reasons why she left months ago.
Did you do it to play nice? Did you do it expecting her to come running back? You did it to kill the old you and to be the new you, therefore what she does and does not do means nothing to you. She told you she wants a D? Ok. My W not only told me that she filed already. The term doing without expectations begins to become more clear with time. Do...because it is who you are not because you want something.
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I am a shattered human being right now
You WILL recover. You WILL survive. You WILL be better.
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In every bad situation, there are always winners and losers.
You are correct sir!! In this case winners and losers is not determined by who saved their M and who did not. It is determined by who walked away from all of this a better person and who did not. So yes. There are winners and losers. We win! They lose!
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but you CANNOT make someone love you who does not.
No you can't, but even if you could you would not want to make them do anything. Do for you!!!
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I still and always will love you
Then tighten up your boot straps and hang on. Always is a big word.
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I am sorry you had to hear those words last night, but all they are is a new beginning to what you have to do. Hang tight and refocus the best is yet to come
