WAW tearing up our family part II

[Queen_of_Swords]

She always said she was "trying," which I believe was code for "this isn't worth that much effort, but I'll see what happens."

Oh wow, does this ^^^^^^^^resonate for me .
You've put into words exactly what I felt when my H. said, " he tried" it in the counselors' office. In fact he said it often I looked at him once and said " What exactly was it that you tried?" and he was silent.