New and saying hello

[~¤DG¤~]

Those are great lyrics, thank you for posting them.

I have been listening to Christian rock these past few days.
Not that it is my favorite style of music, but I can't handle songs about love or breaking up right now. I just can't.

[Brian in Hville]

You're telling me! I listen to country music. It's all about losing the thing syou love! LOL

I really haven't listened to any music since my W dropped the bomb. That was 6 weeks ago today. I don't miss it either. I like my talks with God I have while driving.

[~¤DG¤~]

I'm happy that He has been helping you through this and it brings you comfort.

[jbnati]

I listen to Christian rock on Air1 at work daily. I listen to XM-32 in the car, sometimes. It keeps me centered on God. Other times, like Brian, I have no music on and I'm talking with God.

I've watched some CMT in the morning, and it's a bit too much for me right now.

[~¤DG¤~]

How do you handle friendships?
My best friend and her fiance were good friends to both of us.
He hasn't seen them for a while but now he talks about possibly getting together with them.
I will admit, that bothers me, but I remind myself that acting jealous and insecure would be reverting back to the old me and I don't want to do that.

I trust my friends that they wouldn't bad mouth me, but it still makes me uncomfortable.

[Brian in Hville]

That is also a tough one. My W and I share a lot of friends. A lot of mainly her friends have already let me know they want to remain my friend too. You should be doing things with your friends more often now. That is part of your GAL. Just don't bring up R talk with them unless they ask. And don't EVER bad mouth your S.

[jbnati]

I think it depends on the friends. My W and I also share some friends. Recently, I got together with some friends we hadn't seen in awhile. I'll have to admit, I felt a little guilty because I really didn't want my W to come along. And we did get into R talk, rather heavily. However, it is a little different in that my W really hasn't talked to them too much.

I think if you are comfortable with your friends taking a fairly neutral stance, I would limit the R talk. I definitely wouldn't put any friends in the middle of the situation. It's not fair to your friends, and it has the potential of being destructive.

[~¤DG¤~]

I do things with my friends all the time, they have been my biggest support system.
And of course I don't want them to shut him out, especially if there is a chance for reonciliation in the future.
Who am I to dictate who talks to whom?

But...I'll admit that I am feeling a bit territorial.
They were my friends first, but I know that kind of thinking is childish.
I could easily say to my friend "I don't want you to hang out with him" but
#1- she will do what she wants anyway
*2- that makes me look extremely possesive and insecure and that is a habit I am trying to break.

[Brian in Hville]

Here is another way to look at it..Would you rather him go out with friends of yours, or people who have no idea how wonderful a person you are?

[~¤DG¤~]

Oooh....good way to do a 180 Brian. Thanks for that.